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Week 9: Talking to God — How Do I Pray?

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Prayer isn't a religious performance — it's a conversation with a Father who already knows you and already loves you. This week we explore what prayer is, why it matters, and how to actually do it.


1 Opening

Welcome to a New Season

Over the last eight weeks, you've explored who Jesus is, what He did, and what it looks like to follow Him. You've discovered your identity in Christ, met the Holy Spirit, found your place in community, and begun the daily rhythm of obedience.

Now we go deeper. Not harder — deeper. The next four weeks tackle the things every growing believer eventually faces: prayer, suffering, spiritual opposition, and the call to share what you've found.

Our Next Four Weeks
  • Week 9: Talking to God — How do I pray?
  • Week 10: When It Gets Hard — How do I handle suffering and doubt?
  • Week 11: The Battle Within — What is spiritual warfare?
  • Week 12: Sent Out — How do I share my faith?

This Week's Question

How do I talk to God — and does He actually hear me?

If you're honest, prayer might feel awkward. Maybe you don't know what to say. Maybe you feel like you're talking to the ceiling. Maybe you've tried and it felt empty.

You're not alone. Even the disciples — men who walked with Jesus every day — had to ask, "Lord, teach us to pray" (Luke 11:1). If they needed help, so do we.

2 Scripture

5And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. 6But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly. 7But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking. 8Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him. 9After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. 10Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. 11Give us this day our daily bread. 12And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. 13And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. 14For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

1And it came to pass, that, as he was praying in a certain place, when he ceased, one of his disciples said unto him, Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples. 2And he said unto them, When ye pray, say, Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth. 3Give us day by day our daily bread. 4And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil. 5And he said unto them, Which of you shall have a friend, and shall go unto him at midnight, and say unto him, Friend, lend me three loaves; 6For a friend of mine in his journey is come to me, and I have nothing to set before him? 7And he from within shall answer and say, Trouble me not: the door is now shut, and my children are with me in bed; I cannot rise and give thee. 8I say unto you, Though he will not rise and give him, because he is his friend, yet because of his importunity he will rise and give him as many as he needeth. 9And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. 10For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. 11If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent? 12Or if he shall ask an egg, will he offer him a scorpion? 13If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?

4Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice. 5Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand. 6Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. 8Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. 9Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

1Truly my soul waiteth upon God: from him cometh my salvation. 2He only is my rock and my salvation; he is my defence; I shall not be greatly moved. 3How long will ye imagine mischief against a man? ye shall be slain all of you: as a bowing wall shall ye be, and as a tottering fence. 4They only consult to cast him down from his excellency: they delight in lies: they bless with their mouth, but they curse inwardly. Selah. 5My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him. 6He only is my rock and my salvation: he is my defence; I shall not be moved. 7In God is my salvation and my glory: the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God. 8Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us. Selah.

3 Explanation

What Prayer Actually Is

Prayer is not a formula. It's not a performance. It's not twisting God's arm to get what you want. At its heart, prayer is simply being with God — talking, listening, sometimes just sitting in His presence.

Jesus modelled this. He withdrew to quiet places to pray (Luke 5:16). Before every major decision, He prayed. After exhausting days of ministry, He prayed. Prayer wasn't an add-on to His life — it was the engine of His life.

Key Verses to Sit With
"But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you."
— Matthew 6:6
"This, then, is how you should pray: 'Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.'"
— Matthew 6:9–10
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
— Philippians 4:6–7
"Pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus."
— 1 Thessalonians 5:17–18
A Simple Framework

If you don't know where to start, Jesus gave us a pattern in the Lord's Prayer (Matthew 6:9–13). It's not a script to recite mindlessly — it's a shape for the conversation:

  • Adoration"Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name" — Start by recognising who God is
  • Surrender"Your kingdom come, your will be done" — Align your heart with His purposes
  • Dependence"Give us today our daily bread" — Ask for what you need, honestly
  • Confession"Forgive us our debts" — Bring your failures into the light
  • Forgiveness"As we also have forgiven our debtors" — Release those who've hurt you
  • Protection"Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil" — Ask for strength for the road ahead

You don't need eloquent words. You don't need to pray for an hour. You just need to show up honestly. God already knows what you need before you ask (Matthew 6:8) — prayer isn't about informing God; it's about connecting with Him.

A word from Pastor Claudette: Some of my deepest moments with God have been wordless. Sitting in the car after a hard day, tears running, unable to form a sentence — and knowing He was there. Prayer doesn't require polish. It requires presence. Just come as you are. He's already listening.

4 Application

Making It Personal
  • What does your prayer life look like right now — honestly? (No judgement.)
  • Which part of the Lord's Prayer pattern feels most natural to you? Which feels most unfamiliar?
  • What would it look like for you to set aside five minutes a day to simply talk to God?
  • Is there something you've been carrying that you haven't yet brought to God in prayer? What's holding you back?

Reflection Questions

What does Jesus say is the wrong way to pray? What is the right way? (Matthew 6:5-8)

What pattern does the Lord's Prayer give us for our own conversations with God?

What does Paul say will happen when we bring our anxieties to God in prayer? (Philippians 4:6-7)

What does it mean to "pray continually"? Is that actually possible? (1 Thessalonians 5:17)

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5a Prayer

Father, teach me to pray. I confess that I often don't know what to say, or I rush through it, or I skip it altogether. But You invite me to come — not with perfect words, but with an honest heart. Help me to slow down. Help me to listen as much as I speak. I want to know You, not just know about You. Meet me here. In Jesus' name, Amen.

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